Raising children often comes with plenty of challenges and, for divorced parents, the challenges are even greater. You and your ex-spouse may still feel a bit of animosity toward one another and this could potentially interfere with your ability to co-parent. Continue reading for a list of tips that can help you raise your children in the aftermath of your split.
Making it Work
Ultimately, settling the differences you have with your former spouse aside will be a key element in successfully raising your children with your ex. Try to think of the relationship you have now as one that is entirely focused on your children and their wellbeing rather than on what you may have shared in the past.
Here are some additional co-parenting tips for you to consider:
- Always leave your children out of it: Although it may be tempting to ask your children to relay messages to your ex, it is important to leave them out of the co-parenting relationship you have with your ex-spouse. It is also crucial to leave them out of any conflicts you may have. Speaking negatively about your ex or arguing within earshot of them can influence their relationship with your co-parent, which will have a negative impact on your kids.
- Improve your communication methods: If you have a particularly difficult relationship with your ex-spouse, work on choosing the best communication methods. For example, if things get too heated when you speak on the phone or see each other in person, consider texting or emails instead. It would also be helpful to keep all conversations child-focused.
- Be consistent: Children thrive on consistency and stability, so your parenting methods should also be consistent. Try to coordinate on household rules to maintain similar disciplinary environments. If one parent has a lax parenting style and the other is strict, this can create confusion for the children and create a lot of unnecessary conflicts.
- Apologize when necessary: It can be hard to admit you are wrong and even more difficult to give a genuine apology, but it is important for co-parents to respect one another enough to do so when the situation calls for it. An apology can go a long way in rebuilding trust.
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